Most humans operate with compassion, love and forgiveness. When those we are connected to or love make a mistake, we want to believe that they didn’t mean it. That it was a mistake. That they hear and understand how much their actions hurt. That they feel remorse for hurting us and are actively learning how to be better versions of themselves. Unfortunately, toxic people prey on that compassion, love and forgiveness knowing that the more their atrocious actions are forgiven, the more they will be able to get away with.
The first and most important reason is because I watched my son pull at his hair in anger, cry and scream and say “ I HATE MY HAIR, I WANT TO CUT MY HAIR SO I CAN LOOK LIKE A BOY, LIKE PERSON SO & SO” I won’t name “person so & so” because they are irrelevant. What is relevant in this post is the fact that my 3 year old who is the sweetest, most sensitive, loving, gentle, caring boy you will ever meet (I’m not saying that ‘cause he’s my kid, it’s actually how people describe him) does not have the level of comprehension to express himself in that manner and yet he was.